There just isn’t.
So I’m not even going to write about how I really don’t take issue with Hilary Rosen or how I roll my eyes at Ann Romney. Because, bottom line, I could care less about who “works” and who “doesn’t.”
Here’s what I know for sure:
- Mothers who stay at home with children are young, poor women. Not comfy, rich, non-latina women.
- The longer you stay at home with your children, the less Social Security you’ll receive (if it’s still around by then)
- Having children is one sure fire way to end up in poverty.
- The years you stay out of the traditional workforce are earnings you will never recoup.
- Being a woman, during your child-bearing years, will cost you more for health insurance based solely on that fact.
“Choices” and blah, blah clouds all of this.
When someone, like a politician, says: “Motherhood is the hardest job” they are bullshitting you. Because you know what it is? A bunch of lip service. What they mean to say is: we love that women work so hard for free.
And where do they work for free?
And just to refresh your memory:
- School districts
- Youth organizations
- Faith-based groups
- In the home
- Blogging (I’ll add this just because I can)
Every time you volunteer, that’s free labor. And every time someone tells you that “motherhood is the hardest job” punch them in the nuts for being so Victorian.
Obviously none of us around today remember the “delicate” years when we were too busy scheduling our fainting spells to care about that icky thing called voting. That’s, at least, what those guys who got to vote said. But we sure “had the hardest job.”
Or, how could we skip over the fact that women of color have ALWAYS been working mothers.
But not for their children. Which the Feminine Mystique classically skipped over.
Yay! Two “hardest jobs!”
Mothers, and to be clear not all women are mothers, have one thing in common: they are connected to children. Everything else? Not so much.
So, oversimplified dialogue about fluff infuriates me just a tad because it misses the two key points: policy and positions. Mitt Romney’s positions harm women and more specifically harm mothers. Current policy is about thismuch better. Which is really not at all.
What we’re talking about when we’re discussing motherhood is poverty, health care, retirement, jobs and education.
Not if Ann Romney works.
Because who gives a shit about that?